Here’s To Happiness

These thoughts are based on a secondary research project
It was done maybe 4 years ago
The goal:
What are the causes of Subjective Well-Being
(the scientific term for happiness)?

For this project I looked at several potential causes
Was SWB genetic?
A study looked at identical twins
They should be equally happy
Wrong.
There was a large variation in SWB

Ok, when I win the lottery…
No. It wouldn’t make you any happier.
Maybe for that trip around the world after a spectacular celebration.
But sooner or later, you will return to your same level.

We need the basics for survival. Food. Shelter. Security. Sex/Love.
(in no particular order)
To keep you from being unhappy
More than that?
Not going to make you happier

What the research did show was not surprising, but worth reinforcing.
Friends.
Family.
Faith.
It points to one thing: have a reason to live that isn’t selfish.

There are short-term causes for happiness.
Consumerism and drugs are great examples.
The long-term cause are the ones that make and keep you happy.
And yes, friends can be annoying,
There are times were your swear off your family.
And Faith in it’s definition practically requires pain (a hope for better)

So be patient
Live for/with others
Say not to drugs
(as much as possible – red wine is good for you).

The only thing to cherish are happy memories…
Memories of people who matter to you.

Happiness

Five Steps to Stimulate Creativity

A “yes-yes” attitude
This is instead of a “yes-but” attitude. Rather than focus on what won’t work, try to take an idea to its next step.

Have a beginner’s mind
Try to look at old problems with a beginner’s insight. Invite input from people who know little about the problem. This can lead to breakthrough ideas.

No need to be right
Keep an open mind, and let go of the need to be right. It can lead to new ideas.

Willingness to suspend judgment
Learn to be an encourager of ideas, and withhold judgment on them as long as possible.

Recognize and let go of assumptions
Keep asking why, and you’ll be surprised at the answers. This is much better than hanging on to an assumption about an idea.

I came across this here thought I would share it

Right Now Its All About You

The weather is gray
Or something like it
You are about to go for a jog
Conscious of the fact that you wouldn’t dress this way in public otherwise
You are contextualized
You are safe

Another bald headed round belied man sits in a speedo
Its ok. Here. Now
Except there is no sun
And its not a beach

It is problematic when it isn’t about you
We will never be given the chance to live as anyone else
Except what or who you want to be
A mirror of your society

What makes you who you are is nothing more than what’s around you
Unique is defined by which activities you’ve selected to imitate
You as a social member of a society and nothing more than a member of your choice of community
Of which no one else has exactly the same

You are therefore interesting
Special
You have a different view
I would love to look through your eyes
Because you are not me
You are more interesting to me
At least than I am to myself

You are blessed with a perspective
Abuse it
How different can you think?
Think random
Don’t just see when you can observe

Dancing with Myself

Where am I ?
Its been a while
I’m about to meet me again
Its beyond multiple personality
Not sure who I was
But I know that I am
I pinch myself
It worked

Subliminal Architecture

I Had A Dream Last Night

I had a dream last night
I finally got that dream mustang gto
It was a beauty
But I couldn’t sleep anymore
What is was stolen
What if it got scratched
Eventually, I traded it for a sandy colored mosaic style
Noone would want to steal it
And you couldn’t scratch it if you tried

Serenity Now